something really really meaningful, from
themis' blog..
i cant remember when it ws, but i think it was just now or yesterdy i was thinking about relationship long term. then i ask myself what i look for in a girl.
usually i can give politically correct answers, like my non- negotiables (must be a faithful Christian, serves God, holy, etc etc), then characters like vargin, understanding, patient, etc etc. but what surprise me was for the first time, i was totally stumped. dumb founded. the i kept thinking, what do i REALLY look for in a girl.
honestly i have no clue. i gave myself hypothetical questions like what ifs and stuffs. then i ask myself how do i know when God calls you to have partnership for life with another person?
i always question people (esp christains) who are uncertain about the future wiht their partners, but yet still be with them. trying out? thats not God's idea.
think about this. EG a person has 100% and when u are in a relationship with a person, you give a certain percentage away. and the more u involve in an uncertain relationship, the more love u give away. and lets say they're not the ones you're gonna marry. then one fine day, you found your partner for life. someone you totally love, someone you totally know you're gonna marry him or her, but yet you cannot give 100%, because you gave some pecentage away. then you realise you shouldnt have gone into relationships that you're uncertain of so that the person you're gonna marry will have your 100%, and also He can give u 100%.
Love is not self seeking. not selfish. care about your partner you're goning to marry. reserve your 100% for your partner that God will lead you to in future.
and whats worst? when you break up with the person, there hurt. you get hurt, she get hurt. someone will bound to get hurt. if you think hurting yourself is bad, thinking about it, you're hurting the other party. thats selfishness. you don't care about the consequences of the other party. so don't move into a relationship you're uncertain of.
don't let your emotions control you, don't control your emotions. Let God control your emotions. for His ways are higher than your ways and His thoughts are higher than your thoughts.
Young people, i have an advice for you. your youth is the best time in your life time. Serve God and give this time to God instead of pointless relationships that He's not pointing you to go into. when you get older and you realise you wanna do so much things for God, you realise you can't give as much physically and mentally.
another piece of advice. don't go looking for love in this mortal world when you don't feel God's love or experience His love totally. Because God is love, and His love is true and perfect. but mortal love is not perfect. they can never satisfy you when you don't even know what is perfect love. and when you know and feel and experienced perfect love from God, you'll start to realise you don't need mortal love. thats when Go will lead you to your parner for life, someone you'll love in this world.
so how to know you've experienced pefect love? it is when you realise whats the true meaning of John 3:16.
thats why u see me being single till now. not because i don't understand His perfect love (i do), but because i know my youth is the best time i have, and i'm gonna use it for God rather than going into a relationship i am not even certain of.
don't wait for a person, but wait on God. God bless.there's nothing else really worth depending. God bless, He loves you.
tsesin 
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